We all have that little voice of self-doubt in our head that activates when we’re faced with overwhelming situations and is often holding us back from pursuing the greater things in life. Working on my own self-confidence and ‘I can do this’ attitude is a never-ending, on-going project for me as much as it is for everyone else, but I feel like I’ve come a really long way in the past couple of years, so I thought I would share with you my top three habits I’ve developed to achieve this positive state of mind and start living my life fearlessly.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Having a group of supportive friends who lift you up and push you forward is so important. They say that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with, so if those include the Debbie Downers and the Negative Nancys of the world, there’s a good chance your outlook on life will be just as destructive. Of course no one is perfect and we all have our bad days, but finding a tribe of people who are generally optimistic and inspiring rather than concentrating on everything that goes wrong will send you down a more positive path and fill you up with motivation and confidence to achieve your goals.
PRACTISE GRATITUDE & POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
To stick with the topic of focusing on positivity, practising gratitude is something that I found has an incredible effect on my thought process. I try to always make sure to take five minutes out of my day first thing in the morning and before I go to bed to write down everything I’m grateful for in my Five Minute Journal, and it really changes the way I go about my day. Another thing the journal pushes you to do is to write down positive affirmations, which is something I’ve recently taken to the next level and am practising it even off the pages. What you do is you simply look yourself in the mirror several times throughout the day and say something positive about yourself out loud (for example ‘I’m confident and my body is healthy’). I know it sounds a bit coocoo, and I’m not going to lie, it does feel extremely strange and uncomfortable at the beginning, but somehow it just works!
DO THINGS THAT SCARE YOU
Keeping up with a positive mindset can only take you so far, but to truly feel like you can do anything, you also need to stop avoiding your fears and take action! Putting myself out of my comfort zone and pushing myself into situations that scare me has led me to the most incredible moments I would have never experienced otherwise and eventually even made me completely overcome some of my fears. It’s true that the more you expose yourself to fearful situations, the more comfortable they become. In case you’re wondering, I’m still working on my fear of heights, but as you can see, I’ve already made the first step! A couple more walks across the bridge, and the next thing you know I’ll be doing a bungee jump… Ok, not really, but you get what I’m trying to say, haha.